List of Gary Chapman Quotes

A Child May Be "spoiled" By A Lack Of Training Or By Inappropriate Love That Gives Or Trains Incorrectly.

Others Who Openly Discuss Matters Of Spirituality Often Ignore The Warning Signs. They Are So In Love With Each Other, Enjoy Being With Each Other, And Can See Themselves Making Each Other Happy For The Rest Of Their Lives, And They Close Their Eyes To Huge Differences In Their Views Of Spirituality.

At The Heart Of Mankind's Existence Is The Desire To Be Intimate And To Be Loved By Another. Marriage Is Designed To Meet That Need For Intimacy And Love.

The Getting Out Part [of Advise] May Well Be True. Because If You Have Tried The Tender Love Thing... Typically The Abuser Is Not Going To Change Until They Are Pushed In A Corner.

Physically Abusive And Verbally Abuse Marriages Are Very, Very Difficult Situations. I Fully Understand People In Those Kinds Of Marriages Who Think There Is No Hope. I Also Know That The Advice That Is Given By Most People Is Simply... Get Out Of There As Fast As You Can.

I Think One Of The Other Myths Is That Your Environment Determines Your Happiness. That If You Are Living With An Alcoholic Or Living With A Depressed Spouse For A Long Time, You Are Just Going To Be Unhappy.

Sometimes When The Spouse Is Really The Culprit, It Is Hard To Admit What You Consider Your Little Failures, But If You Are Going To Have A Better Relationship, You Admitting Your Part In The Dynamics Is A Step In The Road To Healing. Because If They See You Modeling Apology, For Example, And They See You Modeling Love, They May Well Get The Idea That Maybe They Need To Apologize.

This Book [desperate Marriages ] Is Really A Book On How To Be A Positive Change Agent In A Very, Very Difficult Marriage. I Am Not Promising That All Individuals Will Be Responsive To The Approach I Take, But I Do Believe That Many Marriages Could Be Saved... Could Be Healed. That Is My Hope.

If I Walk In The House, And I Greet My Wife, And I Give Her A Hug, Kiss Her On The Cheek, And I Say To Her, "honey, How'd Your Day Go," And I Listed To How Her Day Went. If I Say, "is There Anything I Can Do To Help You," And She Tells Me, "honey, If You Could Peel The Potatoes," Or Whatever, I Have Influenced My Wife In A Very Positive Way.

I Think One Of The Myths Is That People Don't Change. A Lot Of People Believe That. Their Spouse Has Been An Alcoholic For The First 10 Years Of The Marriage, And They Say They Are Never Going To Change.

Over The Long Haul, Many Of Those People [in A Difficult Marriage] Will Begin To Reciprocate, Because You Are Meeting A Basic Need In Their Life, The Need For Love, And They Know They Don't Deserve Love Many Times.

I Think People Desperately Want To Feel Love.